Grief comes in waves & miscarriage is a grieving process. I went through SO much grief when I lost my baby.
It’s not fair.
Why did this happen to me.
I’ll never get pregnant again.
Do I even want to get pregnant again?
Scared of loss.
Isolating myself from all babies and pregnancy.
The list goes on.
Then came healing. Even though it took months to heal & share (&& there are still days of overwhelming sadness), these are some things I wish someone would’ve shared with me.
So if you know someone who lost their child or is going through a miscarriage and you don’t know what to say, try these things. Validate their grief, then treat it like you would if they lost a child —
Send starbies
Hug them
Cook them dinner
Offer to clean their house
Etc.
They’ll appreciate the little things the most & some times, actions speak louder than words or show they are cared for when you’re at a loss of words.
From my grieving heart to yours,
Hil
hrmarciano 