My marriage relationship is legit one of THE MOST IMPORTANT relationships in my life (besides my relationship with Jesus). It’s not going to grow if I don’t invest in it.
Do you get flowers if you don’t take time to plant a seed, water and fertilize it? No.
Just like that, your relationship won’t grow if you don’t take time to nourish it from time to time.
We try to get away together quarterly. Some times it’s a date night, sometimes it’s a trip, and other times it’s on our back porch. We do what we have to do to have real conversations about our marriage. We know how valuable this is, because we almost lost it.
**If ya can’t travel for one, have a date night & go somewhere alone together — a park, the beach, an empty field. Bring your notebooks, cuddle up under the stars & dream together.**
So what do we chat about on these “marriage retreats?”
• What is the high and low if the last ___ months for you?
• How can I do a better job serving you? Loving you? What is ONE thing I can work on in the next few months to live you better?
• When have you felt the most loved in the last ____ months?
• What do you want to accomplish in the next __ months? How can I help you?
• Then we check in on our goals/intentions we set at the beginning of the year.
Two things to note —
1. You have to go in with an attitude of humility. Pray together before you start. These questions can be tough when someone is telling you what you could be better at, but we all know we aren’t perfect so we can definitely improve in areas. It’s still tough to hear so don’t start these convos unless your heart is ready to hear & take it in without defensiveness.
2. We don’t always ask all the questions. Sometimes we get stuck on one of them and really dive in deep there.
Okay, your turn. Plan that marriage retreat for sometime this month with your boo 🤍
XO, Hil
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